A month in Playdates land.

//A month in Playdates land.

A month in Playdates land,

If you are a mother and an Entrepreneur, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about when I mention “Playdate Land.”  Working in the middle of August with my three kids home every day was not a piece of cake!

For our family this summer, camp was not really an option.  First of all, we blew our vacation budget when we took our two-and-a-half month trip to France, where we visited many family members and old friends.  Furthermore, because my three kids range in age from 21 months to seven years, I would have needed two camps plus a nanny, and the cost would have been prohibitive.

So, instead of farming out the kids, I chose to take on the ” Playdate Challenge”:  Could I manage to keep my three children happy and entertained without enrolling them in an expensive day program?  For me, the tricky part was that my kids attend school on the Westside at Ocean Charter School, while we live in the South Bay.  Their school friends live, for the most part, near their school, so dropping off and picking up those little angels was a challenging addition to my Playdate Challenge!  It really helped that my kids are also friends with the kids who live in our neighborhood; I want to organize a little BBQ to keep those great relationships going, because they are saving my life.

Anyway, back to the Playdate Challenge, there I was, just back from France, with a thriving coaching practice, tons of new and exciting projects (see upcoming events below) and my three kids at home with me.  I am sure that I’m not the only mom who wants her kids to enjoy summer. What a pleasure it is to see our children happy, playful and excited about their day.  Unfortunately, as much as I would like to have that big, happy vibe every day, it just doesn’t always happen.  What I often hear instead is, “Mommy, you are working AGAIN!  You’re ALWAYS working.”   And this is with me always ending my work day at 3:00 p.m., and working only two to three days a week in the summer.  (Plus lots of nights as well, but they don’t know that!)

I am a Coach, but I find it very, very difficult to help my children reframe and celebrate what they do have instead of complaining about what they don’t have.  I can and do give this help to adults, but with my kids, I give up.  Before I can even finish telling them, “You know, you can choose to enjoy your day or choose to complain all day,” they are already rolling their little eyes. How hard it must be to have a Coach as a mother!

In addition to arranging lots of playdates, I had to be creative and find some little trick to make the situation a little easier on the days when we had nothing special planned. One solution I found was standing up instead of sitting down when I worked at the computer.  When I sit down, I become some sort of child magnet.  The girls come to me for attention, the baby wants to nurse — if you have children, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.  So, now my back is killing me from all the standing, but at least I have figured out how I can get a few things done while the kids play in the house.

Anyway, now that the summer holiday is over I trust that I will find the best childcare solution for each of my kids while I am preparing to work full time, because I am ready to play, play, play with my coaching business!

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  1. Karen Clark 31 août 2008 à 0 h 07 min

    Just remember, more than likely those little ones are why you are in business for yourself! My kids are 14, 11 and 4, and I have been in business 10 years so I can completely relate. What works for me in the summer is to look at the extra time with them as a gift and realize they will only be this needy for a short time. One day (now I know this since mine are older) they will spend hours or even days without speaking to you before you speak to them first. They will never again see the world through the eyes of 7, 5 and 21 month olds and when you remember that it is easier to welcome their interruptions and little inconveniences.

    Some other things that have worked for me is to have special activities I promise them we will do when my work is done, so the deal is if Mommy could make these 4 phone calls in total silence, when she was done we would get to make cookies or go to the park. Another thing is to reserve some really special toy or activity they love doing and make it so it is ONLY available during your phone time or work time. This gives them something to look forward to and makes your work time a win-win for everyone.

    Just thought I’d share some thoughts based on what works for me. There is a teleclass I was in that you may want to listen to (or share) from Party with Your Kids Week that the DSWA put on at http://www.funfelt.com/team.html about half way down under Business Management Ideas.

    Good luck transitioning back into Fall! My kids started school on Tuesday and I have to say I am enjoying the quiet again!! 🙂

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