Emilie, can you introduce yourself?
I am the lucky mother of a 3 year old girl. I am also a psychologist and a teacher/researcher specializing in child development psychology.
Why did you decide to start the I quit complaining challenge?
My daily life was difficult. It had been more than two years since I slept (my little girl waking up every hour) and the conditions of my work at the university weighed on me terribly. I felt irritable, impatient, annoyed, nervous.
My dreams of a happy and fulfilling family life seemed to dissolve. I saw my joyful life slip away.
Did something click that got you started?
After reading Christine Lewicki’s “I quit complaining” book and listening to her, I was convinced of the benefits of the challenge. I first tried “alone in my corner” and did not even talk about it with my partner. I put a bracelet on my wrist and… I took it off after 2 days! As if this bracelet revealed the abyss in which I had fallen!
This first revelation pushed me to continue. I put my bracelet back on and I really commited to the challenge.
What were your biggest difficulties?
I spent 60 days without being able to go beyond day 1 of the challenge! I observed myself in my daily life and was able to eliminate a lot of small complaints.
For example: I used to complain when I looked for something in my tiny purse. I moaned but I didn’t get a new purse! What a loss of energy! The hardest thing was to see the extent of the problem, and especially my resistance in fixing it!
What were your biggest revelations?
It took me a long time to realize that I needed to be supported in my daily life.
Braving my weariness and vulnerability, I asked my friends for support on Facebook.
The encouraging feedback from my friends, the promise to keep them in the loop… that helped me to fully commit to the challenge.
It was a turning point in my life in general: exposing my imperfections does not scare me anymore, it boosts me!
What are the benefits in your daily life? Do you have a tip to share with people interested by this challenge?
I have a lot more energy than before because I don’t waste it anymore! I feel more confident because I am less bothered by external events! I feel happier and more in love… and yet my life hasn’t changed!
My advice is: have compassion for yourself! I was “forced” to develop compassion for myself and that allowed me to reach the end of the challenge! Also see each complaint as a signal: “Here, it stings!”. Do you choose to keep the sting or to remove it?
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